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Crackers · 84 questions

Easy openers. Safe for anyone.

1. What's the best Christmas present you've ever received?
2. What's the worst one, and who's responsible?
3. What's the food on this table you'd fight for?
4. What's a Christmas song you'd ban?
5. What's your earliest Christmas memory?
6. What's the best Christmas film, and no it isn't up for debate?
7. What did you always ask for as a child?
8. What's a family Christmas rule that makes no sense to outsiders?
9. What's the most chaotic Christmas this family has had?
10. What would your perfect Christmas Day look like?
11. What's the best thing about today so far?
12. Who's the most difficult person to buy for here?
13. What's a tradition you secretly find exhausting?
14. What's the best decoration in this house and what's its story?
15. What would you cook if you were in charge next year?
16. What's the strangest gift you've ever given?
17. What do you actually want from the rest of this year?
18. What's a Christmas you'd relive exactly as it was?
19. Who wraps presents worst in this family?
20. What's your ideal Boxing Day?
21. Which Christmas cookie would you save from a kitchen fire?
22. Who in this family starts playing Christmas music way too early?
23. If Santa had to hire one person at this table as an elf, who gets the job?
24. Tell us about the tackiest ornament you've ever loved.
25. How early is too early to put up the tree?
26. Which side dish deserves more respect than it gets?
27. Who here would last longest without peeking at their presents?
28. If you could spend Christmas in any city in the world, where would you go?
29. When did you find out the truth about Santa, and how did you take it?
30. Which Christmas movie villain would you actually root for?
31. Tell us about the most memorable Christmas sweater you've worn.
32. How would you describe this family's Christmas morning in three words?
33. If the dog could talk, what would it say about today?
34. Who is the loudest opener of presents here?
35. Which holiday drink do you look forward to all year?
36. Tell us about a Christmas when the weather ruined everything.
37. Would you rather have a white Christmas or a warm beach Christmas?
38. If you could invent a new Christmas tradition, what would it be?
39. Who in this family always falls asleep first after dinner?
40. Which Christmas carol do you secretly sing along to in the car?
41. Tell us about the worst present you had to pretend to love.
42. How many cookies is a reasonable number to eat in one sitting?
43. If reindeer could pick a new leader, who would it be?
44. Where is the best hiding spot for presents in this house?
45. Which leftover is best eaten cold the next morning?
46. Tell us about a Christmas you spent somewhere unusual.
47. Who here is the most likely to regift something?
48. If you were a Christmas ornament, which kind would you be?
49. How did this family pick its Christmas tree when you were a kid?
50. Which light display in the neighborhood is the most over the top?
51. Tell us about a time you got caught snooping for presents.
52. Would you rather wrap every present or cook the whole dinner?
53. If today had a soundtrack, which song would play right now?
54. Who would win a gingerbread house contest at this table?
55. Which character from a Christmas story are you most like?
56. Share a story about the best snow day you remember.
57. How long does it take you to write a Christmas card?
58. If you could open one present early, which one would you choose?
59. Who here gives the most thoughtful gifts?
60. Which Christmas treat could you make with your eyes closed?
61. Talk about the funniest thing a kid in this family ever said at Christmas.
62. Would you rather get socks every year forever or no presents for five years?
63. If you could fill a stocking for anyone famous, who and with what?
64. Who in this family takes the most photos?
65. Which game should we play after dinner tonight?
66. Describe a Christmas Eve tradition from somewhere else that you love.
67. How do you feel about fruitcake, honestly?
68. If this family had a Christmas mascot, what would it be?
69. Who would you trust to carve the roast?
70. Which part of the dinner do you save for last?
71. Share a story about the best Christmas party you've ever been to.
72. Would you rather decorate indoors or outdoors?
73. If you could make it snow anywhere today, where would it be?
74. Who here has the best handwriting on gift tags?
75. Which song gets you in the Christmas mood instantly?
76. Talk about the longest car ride you've taken to get home for Christmas.
77. How do you like your hot chocolate?
78. If your Christmas wish list had one silly item, what would it be?
79. Who was the best Santa you ever met at a mall?
80. Which Christmas smell is your favorite?
81. Describe a present you made by hand.
82. Where would you put the tree if we rearranged everything?
83. If we had to film a Christmas ad for this family, what happens in it?
84. Who in this family would survive a sleigh ride through a blizzard?

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Second Helpings · 83 questions

Personal, but not heavy.

1. What's been the best part of your year?
2. What was harder than you expected this year?
3. What are you glad you did?
4. What do you want to leave behind in this year?
5. What's something you're proud of that nobody's mentioned?
6. Who made your year better, and do they know?
7. What's changed for you since last Christmas?
8. What are you hoping for in the new year?
9. What's something you'd like more of from this family?
10. What did you learn this year, the hard way or otherwise?
11. What's a plan you want to make real next year?
12. What are you grateful for that you weren't a year ago?
13. What could someone here take off your plate next year?
14. What do you want to do differently next year?
15. What's the best conversation you've had this year?
16. Who did you drift from, and do you want to fix it?
17. What have you postponed all year that carries into January?
18. What's a risk you'd like to take?
19. What do you want to be true by next Christmas?
20. What's the thing you most need to hear right now?
21. Which moment from this year do you want to remember forever?
22. Who at this table surprised you this year?
23. How has your idea of a good Christmas changed as you've grown up?
24. Tell us about a small win from this year that felt big.
25. If you could give everyone here one gift that isn't a thing, what would it be?
26. When did you feel most at home this year?
27. Which friendship grew the most for you this year?
28. Who would you like to spend more time with next year?
29. How do you want to feel when you wake up on New Year's Day?
30. Tell us about something that made you laugh this year when you needed it.
31. If this year were a book chapter, what would the title be?
32. Which habit did you pick up this year that you want to keep?
33. Who taught you something important this year?
34. When did you feel brave this year?
35. How did you take care of yourself this year?
36. Tell us about a place you visited this year that stayed with you.
37. If you could relive one day from this year, which would you pick?
38. Which new thing did you try this year?
39. Who in your life deserves a thank-you card they haven't gotten?
40. How do you want this family to celebrate next year?
41. Tell us about a moment you felt proud of someone at this table.
42. If you could send a message to yourself last Christmas, what would you say?
43. When did you feel most stretched thin this year?
44. Which Christmas tradition matters to you more than you let on?
45. Who helped you without being asked this year?
46. How do you think you've grown since last December?
47. Tell us about a kindness a stranger showed you this year.
48. If you had an extra week off, what would you do with it?
49. Which goal from this year are you carrying into the next one?
50. Who do you wish could be here today?
51. When did you last feel really close to this family?
52. How do you spend your quiet time during the holidays?
53. Tell us about a decision you made this year that you're glad about.
54. If you could change one thing about how we do the holidays, what would it be?
55. Which book, show, or song meant a lot to you this year?
56. Who made you feel understood this year?
57. How would you like to give back to others next year?
58. Talk about a new person who came into your life this year.
59. If next year had a theme, what would you want it to be?
60. When did you feel like you really belonged this year?
61. Which memory from your childhood Christmases do you want to pass on?
62. Who do you want to reconnect with in the new year?
63. How do you handle the busy parts of the holidays?
64. Describe something you let go of this year.
65. Imagine you could spend one more hour with anyone today, who would it be?
66. Which part of this year do you want to leave out of the story?
67. Who reminded you what matters this year?
68. When was the last time you felt truly relaxed?
69. How can we make each other's next year easier?
70. Share a story about a surprise that turned out well.
71. If you wrote a letter to the family for next Christmas, what would it say?
72. Which skill do you want to learn in the coming year?
73. Who do you think changed the most this year?
74. How has this family helped you this year without realizing it?
75. Talk about a moment when you felt grateful out of nowhere.
76. What's one promise you'd make to everyone at this table?
77. When did you feel you needed a break most this year?
78. Which person here would you like to know better?
79. Who do you think deserves more credit in this family?
80. How do you want to celebrate your next big win?
81. Describe a tradition you'd like to start with the people here.
82. Would you like next year to be calmer or more adventurous?
83. Where do you see yourself spending next Christmas?

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After Dinner · 83 questions

The ones that stay with you.

1. Who's missing from this table, and what do you miss most about them?
2. What's a Christmas that changed something in this family?
3. What do you wish this family talked about honestly?
4. What's the hardest thing you've been through this year?
5. What do you want the youngest here to know about our family?
6. What's a story about someone we've lost that should be told today?
7. What do you carry from your own childhood Christmases?
8. What's a thought you've had at this table and swallowed?
9. What do you need from the people in this room?
10. What are you struggling with that you've kept quiet?
11. What do you regret about this year?
12. What would you want to say to someone here if there were no awkwardness?
13. What's a pattern in this family you'd like to break?
14. What do you hope this family still looks like in twenty years?
15. What's the kindest thing this family has done for you?
16. What do you want your life to look like when we do this again?
17. What have you forgiven someone here for without telling them?
18. What are you most afraid of in the year ahead?
19. What do you want to be remembered for by the people at this table?
20. If this were the last Christmas we all had together, what would you say?
21. Which Christmas do you think about when you miss someone?
22. Who in this family do you wish you understood better?
23. How has this family shaped the way you love people?
24. Tell us about a Christmas that was harder than anyone knew.
25. If you could heal one thing between people at this table, what would it be?
26. When did you feel the most alone during the holidays?
27. Which family story do you hope never gets forgotten?
28. Who taught you what family really means?
29. How do you want to be there for this family when things get hard?
30. Tell us about a moment you felt truly loved by someone here.
31. If you could apologize for one thing today, what would it be?
32. When did you realize how much this family matters to you?
33. Which of our grandparents' words do you still carry?
34. Who do you worry about most at this table, and why?
35. How do the holidays make you feel when you're alone with your thoughts?
36. Tell us about a loss this family never really talked about.
37. If this family had one secret strength, what would it be?
38. When did someone here show up for you in a way you'll never forget?
39. Which part of your life do you wish this family asked about more?
40. Who here has made the biggest sacrifice for the rest of us?
41. How do you want our family to handle the next hard season?
42. Tell us about something you've never thanked someone here for.
43. If you could relive one Christmas with someone who's gone, which one?
44. When have you felt like an outsider in your own family?
45. Which of your parents' struggles do you understand better now?
46. Who in this family do you most want to make proud?
47. How has grief changed the way you celebrate?
48. Tell us about a hope for this family you've never said out loud.
49. If you could give the youngest here one piece of advice for life, what would it be?
50. When did you last cry at Christmas, and why?
51. Which old wound would you like this family to let heal?
52. Who here would you call in your worst moment?
53. How do you want to be remembered at future Christmas dinners?
54. Tell us about the hardest phone call you made this year.
55. If today were your last holiday with everyone, what would you want them to know?
56. When did you feel you let this family down?
57. Which family member do you see yourself in the most?
58. Who do you think carries the most weight quietly in this family?
59. How would you like this family to be different for the next generation?
60. Describe a Christmas you'd give anything to have back.
61. If you could change how someone here sees you, what would you change?
62. When did you feel the most forgiven?
63. Which empty chair are you thinking about tonight?
64. Who in this family needs a little more kindness right now?
65. How do you want to show up for the people here next year?
66. Share a story about a moment when you felt proud to be part of this family.
67. If you could say one honest thing without it becoming a big deal, what would it be?
68. Looking back, when did you realize our family wasn't perfect, and how did it feel?
69. Which promise do you want to make to someone at this table?
70. Who would you want to hear say they're proud of you?
71. How have the people here helped you through something they don't know about?
72. Talk about a fear you have about the future of this family.
73. Imagine you could write one sentence into our family history, what would it be?
74. Think back: when did you feel the most grateful to be alive this year?
75. Which family tradition would you fight to keep going after we're gone?
76. Who deserves an apology that hasn't come yet?
77. How do you want to spend Christmas when you're old?
78. Describe a moment you wanted comfort from someone here and didn't ask.
79. If you could hug someone who isn't with us anymore, what would you tell them?
80. Looking back, when did you feel closest to someone here?
81. Which lesson from this family do you hope to hand down?
82. Would you tell us if you were struggling right now?
83. Where did you learn to be the person you are today?

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