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What's the best thing you've watched recently?

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What's actually been hard lately?

Real · 01
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What's something you've never told anyone?

Late Night · 01

Teenagers can smell a forced conversation from across the room. Ask too many personal things too fast and they go quiet; try too hard to sound relaxed and they roll their eyes. The questions that actually work are straightforward, show real interest in their opinion, and make it easy to shrug and skip without anyone getting upset.

This deck is for parents, aunts and uncles, coaches, youth leaders and teachers who want to hear what teens think, not just whether homework is done. The early cards stay casual, covering music, food and the internet. Later levels touch on friendship, pressure and the future, for moments when a teen seems ready to say more.

Easy · 84 questions

Easy openers. Safe for anyone.

  1. What's the best thing you've watched recently?
  2. What's something everyone's into that you don't get?
  3. What would you do with a completely free weekend?
  4. What's the most useless thing you've learned at school?
  5. What's a song you'd put on right now?
  6. If you could redesign school, what's the first thing you'd change?
  7. What's something you're actually good at?
  8. What's the funniest thing that happened this week?
  9. What would you spend £500 on tomorrow?
  10. What's your most-used app, honestly?
  11. What's an opinion you'd defend in front of anyone?
  12. What's the best place you've been to?
  13. What's something you want to try?
  14. Who's the funniest person you know?
  15. What's overrated right now?
  16. What would your ideal day look like?
  17. What's something adults get wrong about your age?
  18. What's a skill you'd learn if it took one week?
  19. What's the last thing you saved or screenshotted?
  20. If you could swap lives with anyone for a day, who?
  21. Which meme sums up your week?
  22. Who is the most chaotic person in your group chat?
  23. How long could you survive without your phone?
  24. If you could have any celebrity follow you back, who?
  25. Tell me the most random thing on your camera roll.
  26. Which video game world would you live in?
  27. Where would you go on a road trip with your friends?
  28. If your life were a TV show, what genre would it be?
  29. Who's the best dressed person you know?
  30. How do you pick what to wear in the morning?
  31. Which snack is always in your bag?
  32. Imagine you could skip one school subject forever, which one?
  33. Tell me about the funniest teacher you've had.
  34. Where do you and your friends usually end up hanging out?
  35. Which song have you had on repeat lately?
  36. Where would you teleport after school?
  37. Who would you want on your team in a zombie apocalypse?
  38. How would you spend a snow day with no homework?
  39. Tell me about a trend you think is weird.
  40. Which fictional character would be your best friend?
  41. Which fast food place could you eat at forever?
  42. Where's the best place to watch a sunset near here?
  43. Who in your class would be most likely to become famous?
  44. How do you choose what to watch next?
  45. Which hobby would you love to get into?
  46. Imagine you could design your own sneakers, what would they look like?
  47. Tell me the best advice you've heard from an online creator.
  48. Where would you want to go to college if grades didn't matter?
  49. Which emoji do you use way too much?
  50. If you had to start a band, what would you call it?
  51. Who is the best cook among your friends?
  52. How would you spend a thousand dollars in one day?
  53. Tell me about your dream concert lineup.
  54. Which season is the best for hanging out?
  55. Which city would you pick to live in for a summer?
  56. Where would you go for your dream birthday?
  57. Who would you swap closets with?
  58. How late do you stay up on weekends, honestly?
  59. Which movie deserves a sequel that never got one?
  60. Which sport would you want to master overnight?
  61. Tell me about the weirdest dream you've had lately.
  62. Where do you get your best ideas?
  63. Which celebrity would you want to interview?
  64. If you had your own talk show, who's the first guest?
  65. Who is the funniest person online right now?
  66. How do you feel about pineapple on pizza?
  67. Talk about a time you laughed at the worst moment.
  68. Which pet would suit your personality?
  69. Imagine you could design a class at school, what would it teach?
  70. Where would you want your first job to be?
  71. Who would win in a dance battle among your friends?
  72. How would you describe your style in three words?
  73. Which game could you play for hours?
  74. If you ran a social media account for a brand, which brand?
  75. Describe the best trip you've taken.
  76. Where would you hide if you needed a day off from everyone?
  77. Which food trend do you actually like?
  78. What's your dream car?
  79. Who has the best laugh you know?
  80. How do you decide what's cringe?
  81. Would you rather live without music or without movies?
  82. Could you survive a week camping with no phone?
  83. Do you think aliens have ever visited Earth?
  84. Is it better to be early or fashionably late?

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Real · 83 questions

Personal, but not heavy.

  1. What's actually been hard lately?
  2. What do you wish people asked you about?
  3. What's something you're worried about that you haven't mentioned?
  4. What kind of person do you want to be?
  5. What do you feel pressure about right now?
  6. What's something you're proud of that nobody noticed?
  7. Who do you trust most, and why them?
  8. What's the most annoying assumption people make about you?
  9. What do you want to do after school, ignoring what you're supposed to say?
  10. What's something you'd change about how things are at home?
  11. Where and with who do you feel least like you're performing?
  12. What's a friendship that's changed recently?
  13. What do you do when you feel low?
  14. What's something you've had to figure out alone?
  15. What would you tell someone starting your year at school?
  16. What are you curious about that nobody teaches?
  17. What's a decision you're unsure about?
  18. What do you want more freedom with?
  19. What's something you'd like help with but haven't asked?
  20. What makes a day a good day for you?
  21. Which friend knows the real you best?
  22. Who at school do you wish you were closer to?
  23. How do you handle it when a friend lets you down?
  24. If you could change one thing about social media, what would it be?
  25. When do you feel most confident?
  26. Which part of your day do you look forward to most?
  27. Tell me about a time you stood up for someone.
  28. How do you decide who to trust?
  29. If you could take a gap year, what would you do?
  30. Where do you feel most relaxed?
  31. Which adult outside the family do you respect most?
  32. Who inspires you right now?
  33. How do you know when you need a break?
  34. If you could learn anything outside of school, what would it be?
  35. When did you last feel really proud of a friend?
  36. Which of your habits would you like to change?
  37. Tell me about a moment that made you feel grown-up.
  38. How do you handle drama in your friend group?
  39. If you could spend a day with your future self, what would you ask?
  40. Where do you see yourself after high school?
  41. Which part of growing up is better than you expected?
  42. Who do you think gets you, and why?
  43. How do you feel about the way you spend your time online?
  44. If you could redo one conversation this year, which one?
  45. When do you feel most creative?
  46. Which subject do you secretly enjoy?
  47. Tell me about a goal you're working toward.
  48. How do you want to be treated when you're stressed?
  49. If you could change one thing about your school, what would it be?
  50. Where do you go when you need to clear your head?
  51. Which friendship taught you the most?
  52. Who do you text first when something big happens?
  53. Lately, how do you feel about the future of the world?
  54. Which cause would you pick to help?
  55. When did you last feel really listened to?
  56. Which of your opinions has changed recently?
  57. Tell me about someone who made a difference in your life.
  58. These days, how do you feel when you compare yourself to others online?
  59. Imagine you could have one honest talk with a teacher, what would you say?
  60. Where do you feel pressure to fit in?
  61. Which values matter most to you?
  62. Who do you want to be more like?
  63. How do you balance school, friends, and everything else?
  64. What would your perfect weekend include?
  65. When do you feel the most misunderstood?
  66. Which part of your life feels out of your control?
  67. Tell me about a time you tried something and failed.
  68. Lately, how do you want your friends to describe you?
  69. What advice would you give your younger self?
  70. Where do you think you'll live in your twenties?
  71. Which rule at home do you understand better now?
  72. Who do you feel responsible for?
  73. These days, how do you deal with feeling bored?
  74. Imagine you could start a club, what would it be about?
  75. When do you feel really included?
  76. Which song matches your mood lately?
  77. Tell me about the hardest decision you've made this year.
  78. How do you feel about the way people talk about your generation?
  79. What's one thing you'd fix in your friend group?
  80. Where do you want more independence?
  81. Is there a friendship you're unsure about?
  82. Do you feel like you can be yourself at school?
  83. Would you rather have a few close friends or lots of friends?

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Late Night · 83 questions

The ones that stay with you.

  1. What's something you've never told anyone?
  2. When did you last feel really alone?
  3. What's in your head at 1am on a bad night?
  4. What are you most afraid of at the moment?
  5. What do you wish I understood about you?
  6. What's the hardest thing about being your age right now?
  7. What's something you're ashamed of that probably isn't your fault?
  8. Who do you go to when everything's too much?
  9. What do you need from me that you're not getting?
  10. What's something that hurt you that I don't know about?
  11. What do you think your life will look like in ten years?
  12. What would you change about yourself, and would you actually?
  13. When did you last feel genuinely proud of yourself?
  14. What do you want people to know about you?
  15. What's a pressure you put on yourself that nobody else does?
  16. What's something you've stopped telling me, and why?
  17. What do you hope for that feels unrealistic?
  18. When do you feel safest?
  19. What would you want said about you by the people who know you?
  20. What's the thing you most want to be true a year from now?
  21. Which worry keeps coming back no matter what?
  22. Who do you feel you have to be strong for?
  23. How do you really feel about yourself most days?
  24. If you could tell your parents one thing without them reacting, what would it be?
  25. When did you last feel like you didn't fit anywhere?
  26. Which part of your life do you wish someone asked about?
  27. Tell me about a moment you felt really let down.
  28. How do you cope when everything feels like too much?
  29. If you could change one thing about your past, what would it be?
  30. Where do you feel the least safe?
  31. Which comment from someone still sticks with you?
  32. Who do you wish you could talk to about anything?
  33. How do you feel about the pressure to have your life figured out?
  34. If you could make one person understand you, who would it be?
  35. When have you felt judged by people close to you?
  36. Which fear do you hide behind jokes?
  37. Tell me about a time you felt completely yourself.
  38. How do you feel about the way you look?
  39. If you could erase one day, which would it be?
  40. Where do you go in your head when things are hard?
  41. Which relationship in your life feels the most fragile?
  42. Who do you think would notice if you were struggling?
  43. How do you want me to react when you tell me something hard?
  44. If you could ask for one thing without feeling guilty, what would it be?
  45. When did you last feel really hopeful?
  46. Which part of your identity are you still figuring out?
  47. Tell me about the loneliest moment you remember.
  48. How do you feel when people expect a lot from you?
  49. If you knew nobody would judge you, what would you do?
  50. Where do you feel you truly belong?
  51. Which apology do you still wish you'd gotten?
  52. Who hurt you more than they know?
  53. How often do you feel like you're pretending?
  54. What would you do with one day and zero pressure?
  55. When did you realize something at home wasn't okay?
  56. Which part of your future scares you most?
  57. Tell me about something you did that you're really proud of.
  58. Honestly, how do you feel after spending hours online?
  59. Imagine you could say one thing to someone who left your life, what would it be?
  60. Where did you learn to hide how you feel?
  61. Which friend would you trust with your darkest secret?
  62. Who do you feel most like yourself around?
  63. Lately, how do you feel about the idea of leaving home one day?
  64. Which expectation would you most like to let go of?
  65. When did someone make you feel truly valued?
  66. Which mistake do you keep thinking about?
  67. Tell me about a time you needed help and didn't ask.
  68. These days, how do you want to be supported when you're sad?
  69. What would you change about how people see you?
  70. Where would you go if you needed to feel safe right now?
  71. Which part of you do you wish people noticed?
  72. Who do you want to make proud, and why?
  73. How do you feel when you think about growing up?
  74. Imagine you could fix one relationship, which would it be?
  75. When do you feel most at peace?
  76. Which dream do you keep to yourself?
  77. Tell me about the moment you felt most grown-up and most scared.
  78. How would you describe the person you're becoming?
  79. What's one honest thing you'd want to hear from me?
  80. Is there something you've been waiting for the right moment to say?
  81. Do you feel like you can come to me with anything?
  82. Would you want to talk more like this?
  83. Can I do something that would make this year easier for you?

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Frequently asked questions

What are good conversation starters for teens?

Ask about opinions rather than performance. Teens are more likely to talk when you want to know their take on a movie, a rule they think is unfair, or which app they could delete forever. Questions that treat them as someone with interesting views get far better answers than questions about grades or chores.

How do I get my teenager to talk to me?

Choose low-pressure moments, keep questions short, and listen more than you speak. Teens often talk late at night or in the car, so be around for those windows. If they give a one-word reply, let it be. Pushing tends to close the door, while patience usually opens it again in a day or two.

What should you not ask a teenager?

Avoid questions that feel like checking up on them, like pointed ones about who they are dating, or anything asked in front of their friends. Comparing them to siblings or classmates also shuts things down fast. Stick to curious, open questions and let them choose how much of their private life to share.

Are these questions good for a youth group or classroom?

Yes. The lighter levels work well as icebreakers for groups, since nobody has to reveal anything personal. Let students answer in pairs first, then share with the room if they want. Save the deeper cards for smaller groups or one-on-one talks, where teens feel safer being honest.

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