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Mountains or the sea?
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Be respected or be liked?
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Know exactly when you'll die or exactly how?
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This or That is about the simplest game there is. Two options, one choice, no fence-sitting allowed. That speed is the whole charm. People answer before they have time to overthink, and those gut picks say more than a careful answer would. The early cards are breezy, like mountains or the sea, and they warm up any group in seconds.
The later levels trade easy picks for tougher ones, like being respected versus being liked, or more money versus more time. That is where the arguing starts, in the good way. The deck suits first dates, road trips, classrooms, and friend groups who think they already know everything about each other. Spoiler: someone will always surprise you.
Easy Pick · 84 questions
Easy openers. Safe for anyone.
- Mountains or the sea?
- Early mornings or late nights?
- Sweet or savoury?
- Text or call?
- Window seat or aisle seat?
- Cats or dogs?
- Cinema or sofa?
- Beach holiday or city break?
- Coffee or tea?
- Books or films?
- Summer or winter?
- Cooking or ordering in?
- Big party or four close friends?
- Plan everything or decide on the day?
- Shower in the morning or at night?
- Music with lyrics or without, while working?
- Own a boat or own a cabin?
- Be always slightly early or always slightly late?
- Rewatch a favorite or risk something new?
- Salty chips or chocolate?
- Pancakes or waffles?
- Hot sauce on everything or nothing spicy ever?
- Road trip or train journey?
- Board games or video games?
- Pineapple on pizza or no way?
- Sunrise hike or sunset picnic?
- Crunchy peanut butter or smooth?
- Thrift store finds or brand new?
- Karaoke singer or karaoke audience?
- Tacos or burgers?
- Camping in a tent or a cabin with a hot tub?
- Rainy day indoors or snowy day outside?
- Roller coasters or the carousel?
- Handwritten letters or voice notes?
- Pool or ocean?
- Popcorn at the movies or candy?
- Bubble bath or long hot shower?
- Horror movie or romantic comedy?
- Farmers market or grocery store?
- Fries dipped in ketchup or in a milkshake?
- Ice cream in a cone or a cup?
- Sneakers or sandals?
- Dessert first or dessert skipped?
- Sleep in on Saturday or get up and go?
- Paper maps or phone directions?
- Podcast or playlist on a long drive?
- Messy desk or spotless desk?
- Jeans or sweatpants?
- Breakfast for dinner or dinner for breakfast?
- Treehouse or houseboat?
- Cake or pie?
- Fireworks or a campfire?
- Zoo or aquarium?
- Airport snacks or packed lunch?
- Candles or fairy lights?
- Superhero movies or true crime documentaries?
- Scrambled eggs or fried eggs?
- Winning the lottery or finding true love next week?
- Mystery novel or fantasy series?
- Keep the tags on or cut them off right away?
- Pickles or olives?
- Bowling or mini golf?
- Hoodie weather or tank top weather?
- Group chat or one-on-one texts?
- Frozen yogurt or real ice cream?
- Front row at a concert or the back with space to dance?
- Sushi or pizza?
- Clean as you cook or clean it all after?
- Flea market or antique shop?
- Guitar or piano?
- Lemonade or iced tea?
- Surprise party thrown for you or throwing one for someone else?
- Loud laugh or silent giggle?
- Hammock or porch swing?
- Water park or theme park?
- Road snacks: chips or candy?
- Bake from scratch or boxed mix?
- Stay at a fancy hotel or a quirky cabin?
- Streaming a whole season in a weekend or one episode a week?
- Spicy ramen or mac and cheese?
- Swings or slides?
- Sparkling water or plain water?
- Emoji-heavy texts or no emojis at all?
- Pajama day or dress-up day?
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Awkward · 83 questions
Personal, but not heavy.
- Be respected or be liked?
- More money or more time?
- Know the truth or keep the peace?
- Be brilliant at your job or love it?
- Travel constantly or have a home you never leave?
- Be the funniest in the room or the smartest?
- Have loyal friends who bore you or exciting ones you can't trust?
- Never be lied to or never have to lie?
- Be famous for a year or comfortable forever?
- Fix your worst habit or gain a talent you've always wanted?
- Live in a city that drains you or a town that bores you?
- Have your dream job at half the pay or a dull one at double?
- Read every mind or have yours permanently private?
- Be forgiven easily or never need forgiving?
- Lose all your photos or all your music?
- Be admired by strangers or deeply known by three people?
- Have a partner who challenges you or one who soothes you?
- Start over somewhere new or fix what you have?
- Be busy and useful or free and unmoored?
- Have certainty about the future or the ability to change it?
- Be the best at one thing or pretty good at everything?
- Say what you think or think before you say anything?
- Be the one who plans the trip or the one who just shows up?
- Keep a small circle forever or keep making new friends?
- Win the argument or end the argument?
- Live near family or far enough to breathe?
- Be known for your kindness or your talent?
- Settle down young or explore until later?
- Get honest feedback or kind encouragement?
- Save for the future or spend on memories now?
- Be the leader or the right-hand person?
- Work from home forever or never again?
- Know what your friends really think of you or stay happily unaware?
- Have one best friend or a big friend group?
- Be first to apologize or first to forgive?
- Be spontaneous or be reliable?
- Have a job you brag about or one you secretly love?
- Get a second chance or give one?
- Stay in touch with your exes or cut them off completely?
- Be praised in public or thanked in private?
- Have a partner who texts all day or one who saves it for dinner?
- Be the youngest in the room or the oldest?
- Fix things yourself or call someone who knows?
- Change your hometown or change your career?
- Get married in a big wedding or elope?
- Relive your childhood or skip ahead ten years?
- Read your old diary out loud or have your old texts read out?
- Have more courage or more patience?
- Be completely organized or completely relaxed about mess?
- Always tell the truth or always know when others lie?
- Live without your phone for a month or without your car?
- Be the funny friend or the wise friend?
- Have kids or have freedom?
- Follow your gut or follow the plan?
- Be underestimated or overestimated?
- Meet your hero and be let down or never meet them at all?
- Forget your worst embarrassment or remember it and laugh?
- Be rich and anonymous or broke and well known?
- Know how your friends met their partners or how they'd describe you?
- Keep a secret for a friend or tell a truth that helps them?
- Grow up in a big city or a small town?
- Have strict parents or no rules at all?
- Be the one who calls first or the one who waits?
- Live by the calendar or by your mood?
- Be praised for your looks or for your mind?
- Get a do-over on your teenage years or your twenties?
- Lend money to a friend or never mix money and friendship?
- Have a quiet life you love or a loud life people envy?
- Be the favorite child or the independent one?
- Move for love or stay for your career?
- Be recognized for your work or paid well for it?
- Have your partner's friends love you or your friends love your partner?
- Keep every promise or never make one?
- Speak up in the meeting or talk to the boss later?
- Hear the harsh truth from a stranger or a gentle lie from a friend?
- Learn from mistakes or avoid them altogether?
- Be your parents' kind of adult or the opposite?
- Tell someone you like them or wait for them to say it?
- Be good at small talk or great at deep talks?
- Hold a grudge or let it go too fast?
- Have your whole life planned out or no idea what's next?
- Be needed by many or wanted by one?
- Choose your own name or keep the one you were given?
No Good Answer · 83 questions
The ones that stay with you.
- Know exactly when you'll die or exactly how?
- Save one person you love or five strangers?
- Live a long ordinary life or a short remarkable one?
- Be the one who leaves or the one who is left?
- Lose your memories or have everyone lose theirs of you?
- Be understood completely by one person or admired by everyone?
- Have said everything you meant or been spared every regret?
- Know your purpose and fail at it or never know and be content?
- Forgive someone who never apologized or be forgiven undeservedly?
- Have twenty more years of this life or five of the one you wanted?
- Protect someone from a truth or trust them with it?
- Face your worst fear now or live under it forever?
- Be at peace with your past or hopeful about your future?
- Choose who you love or choose who loves you?
- Have one more day with someone you've lost or never miss them again?
- Be remembered wrongly or not at all?
- Know every mistake you'll make or none of them?
- Have your children inherit your best trait or avoid your worst?
- Live honestly and alone or warmly and partly in a lie?
- Find out you were wrong about everything or never find out at all?
- Relive your happiest day or erase your saddest one?
- Be deeply loved and misunderstood or understood and alone?
- Know the day your relationship ends or be surprised?
- Have a parent's full approval or your own?
- Lose your sense of humor or your sense of wonder?
- Know why someone left or learn to live without knowing?
- Heal an old friendship or start a new one?
- Tell your younger self one thing or hear one thing from your older self?
- Be brave once when it counts or steady every ordinary day?
- Know you were someone's great love or someone's safe place?
- Go back to the moment you gave up or the moment you stayed too long?
- Let go of an old dream or chase it knowing you might fail?
- Be the person you are or the person you were supposed to be?
- Hear what was said at your funeral or what was said at your birth?
- Make peace with a parent or with a former best friend?
- Live without regret or without fear?
- Be remembered for what you built or for how you loved?
- Keep your happiest memory but lose the person, or keep the person and lose the memory?
- Say goodbye properly or never have to say it?
- Know the one thing you'd change about yourself or never think about it again?
- Spend your last day with family or completely alone?
- Carry someone else's pain or watch them carry it?
- Be forgiven by the person you hurt most or forgive the person who hurt you most?
- Have one real conversation with your childhood self or your future child?
- Lose the ability to cry or the ability to laugh?
- Stay in a love that is safe or leave for one that is alive?
- Undo your biggest success or your biggest failure?
- Be at peace with dying or excited about living?
- Have your secrets revealed after you're gone or while you're here?
- Find out who truly loved you or who never did?
- Feel everything deeply or feel nothing that hurts?
- Be the strong one in the family or the one who gets to fall apart?
- Grow old with your partner or grow old with your friends?
- See your life as others saw it or as you hoped it looked?
- Lose your past or lose your future?
- Be missed by many or grieved by one?
- Keep a painful truth to yourself forever or share it and lose someone?
- Have all your prayers answered or understand why they weren't?
- Be completely free or completely safe?
- Have a life of meaning or a life of ease?
- Know your parents as children or your children as old people?
- Get one more hug or one more conversation?
- Be seen at your worst and still loved or only ever shown at your best?
- Carry a regret quietly or confess it and face the fallout?
- Choose your family or choose your dream?
- Know the exact moment your life peaked or never look back?
- Have the love you give returned or have it be enough to give?
- Lose the house you grew up in or every photo from that house?
- Hear the last words of someone you lost or say your own to them?
- Trust too much or never trust fully?
- Be proud of yourself or be someone others are proud of?
- Leave the world better or leave the people around you happier?
- Understand death or stop fearing it?
- Rewrite one chapter of your life or add one more at the end?
- Know if you made your parents proud or know if you'll make your children proud?
- Face the person you once were or the person you might become?
- Have your heart broken once badly or a little every year?
- Keep searching for something more or accept that this is it?
- Be loved for who you are now or who you're trying to become?
- Save your own dream or save someone else's?
- Have lived one great love story or many small ones?
- Be the one who stayed or the one who got away?
- Tell the whole truth on your last day or take it with you?
How to use these questions
- Have everyone call out their pick at the same time so nobody copies the first answer.
- Allow one follow-up question per card, like 'why?', before moving on.
- Keep the pace quick in the light level; slow down only when a card sparks a real debate.
- Tally who agrees most often and crown the most in-sync pair at the end.
Frequently asked questions
What are good This or That questions?
Good ones split a room roughly in half. Coffee or tea is fine for warming up, but the fun really starts with pairs like beach vacation or city trip, texting or calling, or a big party versus a quiet dinner. The deeper cards, such as fame or privacy, get people explaining themselves, which is when a quick game turns into a real conversation.
How do you play This or That?
Read a card with two options and everyone picks one right away. No 'both' and no 'neither.' You can play out loud, point to sides of the room, or hold up fingers for option one or two. Once the picks are in, anyone who chose the minority side has to defend it for thirty seconds. That is it.
Is This or That good for a first date?
It is one of the easiest first-date games around. The questions are light enough that nobody feels grilled, and you learn a lot fast: how they spend weekends, whether they like plans or spontaneity, what they value. Stick to the light and deeper levels on a first date and save the toughest cards for later.
Can you play This or That with kids or students?
Yes, and teachers use it all the time as an icebreaker. Pick from the light level, where choices are about food, animals, seasons, and hobbies. Kids love moving to one side of the room to show their pick. It gets them talking, listening to classmates, and explaining a choice, all without a single worksheet.