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Opener · 84 questions

Easy openers. Safe for anyone.

1. How was getting here — did anything go wrong?
2. Have you been here before, or are we both guessing?
3. What's been the best part of your week?
4. Are you a nervous-talker or a nervous-quiet person?
5. What did you do today before this?
6. What's the last thing you recommended to someone?
7. Are you good at picking restaurants or is that my job?
8. What's something you're looking forward to this month?
9. How long have you lived around here?
10. What's your Sunday usually look like?
11. What's the last thing that made you properly laugh?
12. Are you more of a plans person or a see-what-happens person?
13. What did you nearly do instead of tonight?
14. What's something you've been into lately?
15. What's your coffee order, and is it a personality?
16. What's the last place you travelled to?
17. Do you cook, or do you order and pretend?
18. What's a small thing that always improves your day?
19. What were you like at eighteen?
20. What's the best thing about your week so far?
21. Which drink on this menu are you most tempted by?
22. Did you almost cancel tonight, be honest?
23. Which neighborhood around here do you like wandering?
24. If this place were a person, what would it be like?
25. Which emoji do you use way too much?
26. Out of curiosity, have you ever been recognized somewhere unexpected?
27. Which concert would you go to again tomorrow?
28. What's your karaoke song if you had to pick right now?
29. Which snack would you bring to a movie marathon?
30. Do you have a signature dish you cook for guests?
31. Which city have you visited that surprised you?
32. Are you a morning person or a midnight person?
33. Which show did you last binge in one weekend?
34. Imagine you could teleport home after this, would you, or walk?
35. Which celebrity do people say you look like?
36. Would you rather go to a museum or a street market?
37. Which sport do you secretly enjoy watching?
38. Have you ever had a totally weird job?
39. Which season suits your personality best?
40. What would you name your boat?
41. Which board game brings out your competitive side?
42. Do you have any pets, or pets you pretend are yours?
43. Which word do you always mispronounce?
44. Which instrument would you master overnight?
45. Which dessert are you ordering if we stay?
46. Have you ever gotten lost somewhere amazing?
47. Which festival or event do you never miss?
48. If your life had a theme song, what would be playing right now?
49. Which app on your phone would surprise me?
50. Are you team window seat or aisle seat?
51. Which book have you recommended the most?
52. Would you rather have breakfast in bed or a picnic in the park?
53. Which hidden talent could you show me in under a minute?
54. Imagine you could live in any movie world, which one?
55. Which weird food combination do you love?
56. Have you ever tried a class just for fun?
57. Which holiday is your favorite, and how do you celebrate it?
58. If you had a free plane ticket tonight, where would you go?
59. Which childhood cartoon still holds up?
60. Do you prefer texting or calling?
61. Which silly fear do you still have?
62. If you were a famous chef, what would your restaurant serve?
63. Which outdoor activity do you actually enjoy?
64. Have you ever met someone famous?
65. Which local spot should everyone try at least once?
66. Would you rather dance badly in public or sing badly in public?
67. Which superpower would be most useful on a Monday?
68. If you had to eat one cuisine forever, which one?
69. Which trend did you fully commit to back in the day?
70. Do you like surprises, or do you peek at presents?
71. Which podcast or radio show keeps you company?
72. If you could spend a day as any animal, which one?
73. Which part of your commute do you enjoy, if any?
74. Have you ever won anything, even something small?
75. Which costume would you wear to a party tonight?
76. Would you rather explore a new city on foot or by bike?
77. Which fictional character would you want as a best friend?
78. If you had a free weekend with no plans, how would it go?
79. Which store could you lose hours in?
80. Do you collect anything, even by accident?
81. Which weather makes you happiest?
82. If you could rename this street, what would you call it?
83. Which game from school recess would you still play?
84. Have you tried any new restaurants lately worth mentioning?

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Warmer · 83 questions

Personal, but not heavy.

1. What made you want to meet up?
2. What do you actually enjoy about what you do?
3. What's something you've got better at recently?
4. What kind of people do you gravitate towards?
5. What's a change you've made that worked?
6. What did you think you'd be doing by now?
7. What's the last thing that shifted how you think?
8. What do you do when life gets heavy?
9. What's a friendship that's shaped you?
10. What's something you'd like to do more of?
11. What are you like when you're stressed?
12. What's something people find surprising about you?
13. What did you grow up around that you've kept?
14. What's a risk you've taken recently?
15. What part of yourself are you actively trying to change?
16. How do you know when you like someone?
17. What are you not willing to negotiate on?
18. What's your relationship with your family like?
19. What's the last thing you were really excited about?
20. What do you want the next couple of years to look like?
21. Which person in your life makes you feel most like yourself?
22. How do you like to spend time when you have nothing planned?
23. Which moment in the last year are you proudest of?
24. If you could change careers tomorrow, would you?
25. Which place do you consider home, and why?
26. How do you usually show someone you care?
27. Which value did your family give you that you still hold?
28. Have you ever made a big move on your own?
29. Which friend knows you better than anyone?
30. How do you handle it when a plan falls apart?
31. Which hobby would you love more time for?
32. If you could spend a year learning anything, what would it be?
33. Which part of your job gives you the most energy?
34. These days, how do you recharge after a long week?
35. Which book, film, or song changed you a little?
36. Do you think people can really change?
37. Which quality do you look for first in a friend?
38. How close are you with your siblings, if you have any?
39. Which dream have you carried since you were a kid?
40. If money weren't a concern, how would your days look?
41. Which tradition do you want in your future home?
42. How do you know when you need some time alone?
43. Which adventure is still on your list?
44. Have you ever changed your mind about something big?
45. Which place have you traveled that changed your view of the world?
46. How important is humor to you in a partner?
47. Which moment made you realize you'd grown up?
48. Do you prefer a big group of friends or a few close ones?
49. Which part of your week would you never give up?
50. How do you deal with disagreements with people you care about?
51. Which lesson did you learn from your first job?
52. If you could have dinner with your grandparents at our age, what would you ask?
53. Which small thing makes you feel loved?
54. How do you like to celebrate your birthday?
55. Which challenge are you working through right now?
56. Have you ever surprised yourself by being brave?
57. Which city would you like to live in someday?
58. How do you decide whether to take a risk?
59. Which kind of weekend makes you happiest?
60. Do you want to stay in this city long term?
61. Which compliment do you remember years later?
62. How has your idea of a good relationship changed?
63. Which habit are you trying to build this year?
64. If you could give your eighteen-year-old self advice, what would it be?
65. Which cause or issue would you give your time to?
66. How much does your family's opinion matter in your choices?
67. Which part of dating do you find easiest?
68. Have you ever had a mentor who changed your path?
69. Which recent conversation stayed on your mind?
70. How do you like to be supported when you're stressed?
71. Which memory from childhood feels the warmest?
72. Is there a goal you've been quietly working toward?
73. Which trait do people misread about you?
74. How would your closest friend describe you?
75. Which part of your life feels most settled right now?
76. Do you believe in timing, or do you make things happen?
77. Which way of spending money feels most worth it to you?
78. How do you feel about being in a relationship right now?
79. Which experience made you more patient?
80. If you could relive one year of your life, which one?
81. Which sort of plans excite you more: travel, home, or career?
82. How do you want to feel on a regular Tuesday night?
83. Which of your opinions would surprise your friends?

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Real · 83 questions

The ones that stay with you.

1. What are you actually hoping to find?
2. What's the hardest thing you've been through recently?
3. What have your last relationships taught you?
4. What do you know you do wrong in relationships?
5. What would someone need to understand about you early?
6. What are you still recovering from?
7. When did you last feel really happy, and where were you?
8. What do you want that you don't usually admit on a first date?
9. What's the thing you're most afraid of repeating?
10. What kind of love did you see growing up?
11. What would make you walk away from something promising?
12. What are you not telling me because it's the first date?
13. What do you need from someone to feel safe?
14. What's something you'd want a partner to be patient with?
15. When have you been the problem?
16. What's a version of yourself you're leaving behind?
17. What do you want to be different about your life a year from now?
18. What would you want said about you by someone who loved you?
19. What's the loneliest you've felt lately?
20. What's the question you're glad I haven't asked yet?
21. Which past relationship taught you the most about yourself?
22. How do you know when you can really trust someone?
23. Which fear tends to show up when you start liking someone?
24. When did you last feel truly seen by someone?
25. Which part of you takes the longest for people to understand?
26. Gently, how do you usually react when you feel hurt?
27. Which wall do you put up early on?
28. Is there a heartbreak that changed how you love?
29. Which promise would you want from a partner?
30. How did your parents' relationship shape what you want?
31. Which moment made you proud of how you handled a breakup?
32. When do you feel most insecure?
33. Which kind of support did you wish you'd had growing up?
34. In plain words, how do you want to be loved?
35. Which dealbreaker comes from real experience?
36. Have you ever been afraid of getting too close to someone?
37. Gently, which part of commitment scares you most?
38. If you're willing, how do you want to handle conflict with someone you love?
39. Which mistake from a past relationship do you never want to repeat?
40. When have you felt most alone even around people?
41. Which dream would you want a partner to believe in with you?
42. How honest are you when something bothers you?
43. Which part of your past do you usually wait to share?
44. Is there something you need to feel safe opening up?
45. Which kind of home do you want to build someday?
46. How has loss shaped the way you live?
47. Which truth about you would you want me to hear from you first?
48. When did you last let yourself be vulnerable?
49. Which kind of partner were you at your best?
50. Truthfully, how do you want to grow in your next relationship?
51. Which feeling do you find hardest to put into words?
52. Do you feel ready for something serious, honestly?
53. Which part of yourself are you still learning to love?
54. How do you want a partner to act on your worst day?
55. Which relationship in your life do you wish you could repair?
56. When did you realize what you really need from love?
57. Which way were you hurt that still affects how you trust?
58. How do you want to feel after a year with someone?
59. Which small gesture would mean the world to you?
60. Is there a question you're afraid to ask on dates?
61. Which part of your life would you want someone to share with you?
62. How do you handle it when someone pulls away?
63. Which moment made you believe in love again?
64. When do you feel most like you're enough?
65. Which fear would you want a partner to be gentle with?
66. How has being single changed you?
67. Which kind of silence feels comfortable to you?
68. Do you think you give more than you take in relationships?
69. Which part of your story are you still writing?
70. How do you want to be remembered by someone you loved?
71. Which sign tells you a connection is real?
72. When have you been let down and still chose to stay open?
73. Which hard thing would you want a partner to know about your family?
74. How do you want to say sorry when you get it wrong?
75. Which part of yourself do you protect most?
76. Is there something tonight that surprised you about yourself?
77. Which unspoken expectation do you bring into dating?
78. How do you picture a quiet, happy life together with someone?
79. Which moment in your life are you still making peace with?
80. When did you learn that you deserve kindness?
81. Which thing do you hope someone will finally notice about you?
82. How would you like this night to end, honestly?
83. Which part of this conversation will you remember tomorrow?

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