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First Date Conversation Starters — Free Opener Cards Online

First date conversation starters have one job: get you both talking before the nerves decide the evening. These are short, easy to answer, and none of them sound like a job interview.

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Opener · 20 first date conversation starters

Easy openers. Safe for anyone.

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How was getting here — did anything go wrong?

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Have you been here before, or are we both guessing?

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What's been the best part of your week?

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Are you a nervous-talker or a nervous-quiet person?

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What did you do today before this?

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What's the last thing you recommended to someone?

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Are you good at picking restaurants or is that my job?

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What's something you're looking forward to this month?

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How long have you lived around here?

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What's your Sunday usually look like?

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What's the last thing that made you properly laugh?

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Are you more of a plans person or a see-what-happens person?

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What did you nearly do instead of tonight?

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What's something you've been into lately?

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What's your coffee order, and is it a personality?

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What's the last place you travelled to?

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Do you cook, or do you order and pretend?

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What's a small thing that always improves your day?

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What were you like at eighteen?

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What's the best thing about your week so far?

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Warmer · 20 first date conversation starters

Personal, but not heavy.

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What made you want to meet up?

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What do you actually enjoy about what you do?

Warmer · 02
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What's something you've got better at recently?

Warmer · 03
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What kind of people do you gravitate towards?

Warmer · 04
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What's a change you've made that worked?

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What did you think you'd be doing by now?

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What's the last thing that shifted how you think?

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What do you do when life gets heavy?

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What's a friendship that's shaped you?

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What's something you'd like to do more of?

Warmer · 10
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What are you like when you're stressed?

Warmer · 11
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What's something people find surprising about you?

Warmer · 12
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What did you grow up around that you've kept?

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What's a risk you've taken recently?

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What part of yourself are you actively trying to change?

Warmer · 15
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How do you know when you like someone?

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What are you not willing to negotiate on?

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What's your relationship with your family like?

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What's the last thing you were really excited about?

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What do you want the next couple of years to look like?

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Real · 20 first date conversation starters

The ones that stay with you.

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What are you actually hoping to find?

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What's the hardest thing you've been through recently?

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What have your last relationships taught you?

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What do you know you do wrong in relationships?

Real · 04
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What would someone need to understand about you early?

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What are you still recovering from?

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When did you last feel really happy, and where were you?

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What do you want that you don't usually admit on a first date?

Real · 08
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What's the thing you're most afraid of repeating?

Real · 09
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What kind of love did you see growing up?

Real · 10
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What would make you walk away from something promising?

Real · 11
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What are you not telling me because it's the first date?

Real · 12
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What do you need from someone to feel safe?

Real · 13
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What's something you'd want a partner to be patient with?

Real · 14
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When have you been the problem?

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What's a version of yourself you're leaving behind?

Real · 16
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What do you want to be different about your life a year from now?

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What would you want said about you by someone who loved you?

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What's the loneliest you've felt lately?

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What's the question you're glad I haven't asked yet?

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