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Light · 84 questions

Easy openers. Safe for anyone.

1. What's your ideal way to spend a day off?
2. Are you an early riser or does the morning happen to you?
3. What's your most-used app and what does that say?
4. What's a subject you could talk about endlessly?
5. How do you recharge — people or no people?
6. What's a small thing you're picky about?
7. What's your relationship with your phone like?
8. What did you love doing as a child?
9. What's your idea of a good holiday?
10. What's something you own that you'd replace immediately if lost?
11. What do you listen to when you're alone?
12. How do you feel about big groups?
13. What's your worst habit that you have no plans to fix?
14. What kind of humor do you have?
15. What's the last thing you got obsessed with?
16. What's your comfort meal?
17. How do you make decisions — gut or spreadsheet?
18. What's something you spend money on without guilt?
19. What's your most unusual interest?
20. What would your friends warn me about, jokingly?
21. Which neighborhood in your city feels the most like you?
22. If you could only listen to one album this month, which one?
23. How do you take your coffee, and how strict are you about it?
24. Who was your first celebrity crush?
25. Describe your perfect rainy afternoon.
26. Pick a dish you could cook to impress someone.
27. Where did you grow up, and what was the best thing about it?
28. Which sport do you actually enjoy watching?
29. Tell me about a hobby you picked up recently.
30. Name a movie you could watch on repeat.
31. If you had a free Saturday tomorrow, what would you plan?
32. Are you a planner or a wing-it traveler?
33. Which city would you love to spend a month in?
34. How do you like to celebrate your birthday?
35. Who in your family are you most like?
36. Describe your dream road trip playlist.
37. Pick your favorite time of day and defend it.
38. Where do you go for the best food in town?
39. Which book did you love as a teenager?
40. Tell me about your go-to weekend breakfast.
41. Name a skill you'd love to learn this year.
42. If you could have any pet, what would you choose?
43. Do you prefer mountains, beaches, or cities?
44. Which chore do you actually not mind?
45. How do you usually spend your commute?
46. Who's the funniest person in your friend group?
47. Describe your style in three words.
48. Pick a game you're secretly competitive at.
49. Where would you take a visitor on their first day in your town?
50. Which snack is always in your kitchen?
51. Tell me about the last concert you went to.
52. Name a show you got hooked on way too fast.
53. If you could live in any era for a week, which one?
54. Are you more of a text person or a call person?
55. Which holiday do you look forward to most?
56. How spontaneous are you, honestly?
57. Who do you text the most?
58. Describe the last really good meal you had.
59. Pick a place you'd love to see in person someday.
60. Where do you like to sit in a restaurant?
61. Which household task do you always volunteer for?
62. Tell me about the job you had in high school.
63. Name a podcast or channel you'd recommend.
64. If you had to teach me something right now, what would it be?
65. Do you have a signature drink?
66. Which sound do you find weirdly soothing?
67. What does your ideal long weekend look like?
68. Who got you into your favorite music?
69. Describe your ideal home in one sentence.
70. Pick a board game night or a movie night.
71. Where would you go to people-watch?
72. Which language would you love to speak fluently?
73. Tell me about your favorite local spot.
74. Name a trip that went better than expected.
75. If you won a small prize tomorrow, how would you spend it?
76. Are you a cat person, dog person, or something else entirely?
77. Which season makes you the happiest?
78. How organized is your desk right now?
79. Who is your go-to adventure buddy?
80. Describe your ideal first hour of the day.
81. Pick one food you'll never get tired of.
82. Where's somewhere you've been more than once and would go again?
83. Which small luxury do you treat yourself to?
84. Tell me something on your bucket list that's easy to do.

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Deeper · 83 questions

Personal, but not heavy.

1. What's shaped you most that isn't obvious?
2. What do you need to feel comfortable around someone?
3. How do you handle conflict?
4. What do you do when you're overwhelmed?
5. What's the most important friendship in your life?
6. What did you have to figure out on your own?
7. What are you ambitious about, and what are you not?
8. What's a value you won't bend on?
9. What's the best thing about your family, and the hardest?
10. When do you feel most confident?
11. What's a mistake you made that changed you?
12. What do you avoid dealing with?
13. How do you want to spend your thirties, forties, whatever's next?
14. What kind of person do you become under pressure?
15. What do people rely on you for?
16. What have you had to unlearn?
17. What do you want more of in your life?
18. What's a hard decision you're proud of?
19. How do you show someone you care?
20. What would break your trust?
21. Which friendship has lasted the longest, and why?
22. If you could relive one year of your life, which one?
23. How did your family spend holidays growing up?
24. Who has influenced your career path the most?
25. Describe a moment that made you proud of where you come from.
26. Pick a lesson you learned from a job you didn't love.
27. Where do you feel most at home?
28. Which part of your routine do you protect no matter what?
29. Tell me about a time you changed your mind about someone.
30. Name something you believed at twenty that you don't anymore.
31. If you could live anywhere for five years, where would you go?
32. When things are hard, how do you like to be supported?
33. Who do you go to for honest advice?
34. Describe the best trip you've ever taken and what made it special.
35. Which quality do you admire most in other people?
36. Pick a goal you're working toward right now.
37. Where do you see yourself spending most of your energy next year?
38. Tell me about a teacher or mentor who mattered.
39. Name a moment you felt really seen by a friend.
40. If money weren't a factor, what would your days look like?
41. These days, how do you usually spend time with your family?
42. Who is someone you've lost touch with and miss?
43. Describe how you like to spend a quiet night in.
44. Which decision surprised the people around you?
45. Pick one thing you'd like people to know about you early on.
46. Where did you learn to be the way you are with money?
47. Tell me about a tradition you want to keep going.
48. Name a risk you're glad you took.
49. If you could have dinner with one relative from the past, who would it be?
50. When plans fall apart, how do you handle it?
51. Who in your life makes you laugh the hardest?
52. Describe a time you surprised yourself.
53. Which kind of people drain your energy fastest?
54. Pick the most important thing you look for in a friend.
55. Where does your sense of humor come from?
56. Tell me about a place that changed how you see things.
57. Name something you're still figuring out.
58. If you had to describe your family in one scene, what would it be?
59. Has the way you spend your birthday changed since you were a kid?
60. Who do you want to be more like?
61. Describe the neighborhood you grew up in.
62. Which of your habits are you trying to build right now?
63. Pick a moment you knew you'd made the right choice.
64. Where do you draw the line between work and rest?
65. Tell me about a hard conversation you're glad you had.
66. Name a way you've grown in the last couple of years.
67. If you could spend a day in someone else's job, whose?
68. What tells you that you need a break?
69. Who taught you how to cook, fix things, or get by?
70. Describe a friendship that changed you.
71. Which part of your life feels most settled right now?
72. Pick the compliment that means the most to you.
73. Where do you go when you need a fresh start?
74. Tell me about something you've been proud of lately.
75. Name a dream you had as a kid that still pulls at you.
76. If you could master one area of your life, which would it be?
77. Do you like surprises, and what kind?
78. Who knows you best, and how did that happen?
79. Describe your relationship with your hometown now.
80. Which fear have you already faced this year?
81. Pick one word you hope describes you in ten years.
82. Where does your stubbornness show up most?
83. Tell me what a good week looks like for you.

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Deepest · 83 questions

The ones that stay with you.

1. What's the thing about you that takes people longest to understand?
2. What are you most insecure about?
3. What's a wound you're still carrying?
4. What do you need that you've never been given?
5. What's the loneliest chapter of your life?
6. What have you never told anyone?
7. What do you think you'll struggle with in a serious relationship?
8. What's something you'd have to be very sure of someone to share?
9. What are you afraid people will see?
10. What's the hardest thing you've forgiven?
11. What would you want changed about how you were raised?
12. What do you do with feelings you can't explain?
13. What's a truth about yourself you resisted for years?
14. What would make a life feel well spent to you?
15. When were you last fully honest with someone?
16. What are you working towards that scares you?
17. What's the version of you nobody meets?
18. What would you need to feel truly safe with someone?
19. What are you hoping I turn out to be?
20. What's the question you'd ask me if you knew I'd answer honestly?
21. Which moment in your life do you think about more than you admit?
22. If I met you at fifteen, what would I have noticed first?
23. At the end of a long relationship, how do you want to feel?
24. Who in your life have you never quite understood?
25. Describe a time you felt completely alone.
26. Pick the hardest goodbye you've had to say.
27. Where do you still feel like you have something to prove?
28. Which part of your past do you rarely talk about?
29. Tell me about a time you let someone down.
30. Name a belief that holds you back.
31. If you could heal one relationship, which would it be?
32. How has your family shaped what you expect from love?
33. Who have you been most afraid to disappoint?
34. Describe the moment you realized your parents were just people.
35. Which of your needs feel hardest to say out loud?
36. Pick a moment you wish you'd been braver.
37. Where does your fear of rejection come from?
38. Tell me about the season of life that changed you most.
39. Name something you want but feel guilty wanting.
40. If you could hear the honest truth about how others see you, would you want to?
41. What do you do when you feel unloved?
42. Who taught you that you had to earn affection?
43. Describe what home feels like when it's right.
44. Which promise to yourself have you broken most often?
45. Pick a part of yourself you're still learning to accept.
46. Where do you go emotionally when you shut down?
47. Tell me what you're most afraid of losing.
48. Name the thing you'd most want a partner to understand without asking.
49. If you could undo one choice from your twenties, would you?
50. What tells you that you truly trust someone?
51. Who have you forgiven that never apologized?
52. Describe a time you were proud of how you handled heartbreak.
53. Which dream did you give up for someone else?
54. Pick the hardest truth anyone has told you about yourself.
55. Where do you still feel like a guest in your own life?
56. Tell me about the person you were before your hardest year.
57. Name a moment you felt truly loved.
58. If you could ask me anything without it being awkward, what would it be?
59. When someone gets too close too fast, how do you react?
60. Who would you call at three in the morning?
61. Describe the kind of love you grew up watching.
62. Which question do you hope nobody asks you?
63. Pick one thing you're scared I'll judge.
64. Where do you hide your sadness?
65. Tell me about a moment you knew something had to change.
66. Name what you'd want in your life if you stopped settling.
67. If you could rewrite how your last relationship ended, would you?
68. How often do you let people help you?
69. Who do you still want approval from?
70. Describe what feeling safe means to you.
71. Which memory still makes your chest tight?
72. Pick the part of your story you'd tell only on a long drive.
73. Where do you think you're hardest on yourself?
74. Tell me what you need when you can't find the words.
75. Name something you've been carrying alone.
76. If you had to describe your heart right now, what would you say?
77. By the people who knew you best, how do you want to be remembered?
78. Who were you trying to be for most of your life?
79. Describe the moment you started liking yourself.
80. Which hope do you protect the most carefully?
81. Pick one thing you'd want to hear from me right now.
82. Where do you want your life to be when you finally slow down?
83. Tell me the thing you almost said tonight but didn't.

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