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Light · 84 questions

Easy openers. Safe for anyone.

1. What's been the highlight of your week?
2. Are you a planner or do you figure it out when you get there?
3. What's something you're into that most people find strange?
4. What did you do before this that you thought you'd do forever?
5. What's the best meal you've had in this city?
6. How do you actually spend a free Saturday?
7. What's a place you keep meaning to go back to?
8. What's the last thing you got genuinely obsessed with?
9. Are you close with your family, or is that a whole conversation?
10. What's something you're proud of that isn't on your CV?
11. What's your most-repeated album or artist?
12. What would you be doing right now if we hadn't met up?
13. What's a small thing that instantly improves your day?
14. Do you like where you live, or is it temporary?
15. What's a movie you'd rewatch tonight without complaining?
16. What did you believe as a teenager that you find funny now?
17. What's something you've learned recently?
18. City person, water person, or mountain person?
19. What's the best trip you've taken, and what made it good?
20. What are you looking forward to in the next few months?
21. Which song is guaranteed to get you dancing?
22. Would you rather spend a day at an amusement park or a bookstore?
23. Which dish do you always order when you try a new restaurant?
24. Who would be the first guest on your talk show?
25. Which game night are you the most competitive at?
26. Out of curiosity, have you ever tried a wild extreme sport?
27. Which fictional town would you love to live in?
28. Is there a smell that always makes you nostalgic?
29. Which holiday tradition do you look forward to most?
30. Imagine you could master any dance, which one?
31. Which celebrity would you want to grab coffee with?
32. Out of curiosity, do you sing in the car, and what's on the playlist?
33. Which job would you do for free if you could?
34. One day of time travel: past or future?
35. Which random fact do you love telling people?
36. Have you ever taken a spontaneous trip?
37. Which sound instantly calms you down?
38. Would you rather live by the ocean or in a cabin in the woods?
39. Which famous landmark is on your must-see list?
40. What class could you teach tomorrow?
41. Which comfort food wins on a rainy day?
42. Do you remember your first concert?
43. Which kind of weather do you secretly love?
44. Imagine you were a dessert, which one would you be?
45. Which cartoon character are you most like?
46. Have you ever had a nickname that stuck?
47. Which is better: sunrise or sunset?
48. Which TV show could you watch forever?
49. Which game would you pick for a rainy afternoon?
50. Do you prefer cats, dogs, or neither?
51. Which gadget can't you live without?
52. What's the first fun thing you'd buy after winning the lottery?
53. Which local festival or event do you love?
54. Have you ever met a stranger who turned into a friend?
55. Which season has the best food?
56. Would you rather be famous for a song or for a book?
57. Which city has the best pizza in your opinion?
58. If you could own any animal, no rules, what would it be?
59. Which trip is next on your list?
60. Do you have a lucky charm or ritual?
61. Which snack do you always buy at the gas station?
62. If you had your own island, what would you name it?
63. Which movie can you quote from start to finish?
64. Have you ever been on TV or in the newspaper?
65. Which color would you paint your front door?
66. Would you rather go stargazing or to a rooftop party?
67. Which skill would you love to learn in a weekend?
68. If you could only eat breakfast foods or dinner foods, which?
69. Which room in your home is your favorite?
70. Do you like hot days or chilly days better?
71. Which kind of museum do you actually enjoy?
72. If you had to live in one decade, which one?
73. Which dish could you cook with your eyes closed?
74. Have you ever tried to grow anything?
75. Which road trip would be your dream?
76. Would you rather have a talking dog or a flying car?
77. Which childhood game were you unbeatable at?
78. If you could swap lives with anyone for a day, who?
79. Which late-night snack is your weakness?
80. Do you have a favorite quote or motto?
81. Which subject were you best at in school?
82. If you could add one hour to every day, how would you use it?
83. Which language would you love to speak fluently?
84. Have you ever done something on a dare you regret?

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Deeper · 83 questions

Personal, but not heavy.

1. What made you say yes to this?
2. What's something you're working on about yourself?
3. What kind of people do you end up closest to?
4. What's a decision that changed the direction of your life?
5. What do you want your life to look like in five years — honestly, not impressively?
6. What's something you used to want that you don't anymore?
7. How do you handle it when things go badly?
8. What's a friendship that shaped you?
9. What do you need from people to feel comfortable?
10. What's the last thing that made you rethink something?
11. What's a risk you're glad you took?
12. Where are you when you feel most like yourself?
13. What's something people assume about you that's wrong?
14. What did you learn about relationships from your parents?
15. What's a hard year you've had, and what got you through?
16. What are you not willing to compromise on?
17. What do you do when you like someone?
18. What's something you're still figuring out?
19. When did you last do something outside your comfort zone?
20. What's missing from your life at the moment?
21. Which moment from the last year would you relive?
22. How would your friends describe you in three words?
23. Which part of your childhood shaped you the most?
24. What's one thing you'd change about your daily routine?
25. Which achievement are you quietly proud of?
26. How do you feel about the idea of settling down?
27. Which person has taught you the most about life?
28. Have you lived anywhere that felt like the wrong fit?
29. Which dream have you kept even as life changed?
30. How do you like to spend time with the people you love?
31. Which book, movie, or song means something personal to you?
32. Imagine you could go back to school, what would you study?
33. Which part of your personality took you longest to accept?
34. How important is family in your future plans?
35. Which kind of adventure do you want more of?
36. Do you think you're more like your mom or your dad?
37. Which small thing do you notice first about people?
38. How has your view of love changed since your teens?
39. Which challenge made you stronger?
40. If you had a year off work, how would you spend it?
41. Which friendship has lasted the longest, and why?
42. How do you handle stress when it piles up?
43. Which place makes you feel completely at peace?
44. Is there someone you look up to, and why?
45. Which goal are you working on this year?
46. These days, how do you make big decisions?
47. Which part of your culture or background matters most to you?
48. If you could live abroad for a year, where would you go?
49. Which lesson did a past relationship teach you?
50. How much alone time do you need to feel balanced?
51. Which tradition would you want to pass on someday?
52. Do you feel like you're where you want to be in life?
53. Which kind of home do you picture for yourself?
54. How do you show appreciation to the people you love?
55. Which moment made you believe in yourself?
56. If you could fix one problem in the world, which one?
57. Which of your habits are you trying to change?
58. How do you know when a friendship is worth keeping?
59. Which job taught you the most about people?
60. Is there anything you'd love to do but feel nervous about?
61. Which quality do you most admire in a partner?
62. How do you like to handle arguments?
63. Which time in your life felt the most free?
64. If you had to describe your ideal weekend together with someone, what's in it?
65. Which risk would you take if you knew you couldn't fail?
66. How do you feel about kids, pets, and big life plans?
67. Which part of your life are you most excited about right now?
68. Do you believe in soulmates, or in choosing each other?
69. Which person in your family are you closest to?
70. How has moving or staying put shaped you?
71. Which thing do people often get wrong about your job?
72. If you could give advice to someone going on their first date ever, what would it be?
73. Which values do you want to share with a partner?
74. How do you usually spend holidays?
75. Which moment made you laugh hardest this year?
76. Is there a cause you'd drop everything to help?
77. Which kind of friend are you?
78. How do you balance work and life?
79. Which experience changed your mind about something?
80. If you could spend a day with your younger self, what would you do?
81. Which part of dating apps do you like or dislike?
82. How do you feel about sharing your feelings early on?
83. Which moment made you feel grateful recently?

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Deepest · 83 questions

The ones that stay with you.

1. What are you actually looking for — and are you telling the truth?
2. What's the pattern you keep repeating in relationships?
3. What's something you'd want a partner to know early?
4. What's the loneliest period of your life been like?
5. What do you think you're bad at in relationships?
6. What would someone who dated you say about you?
7. What's a fear you carry into every new thing?
8. What have you had to forgive yourself for?
9. What do you want that you feel embarrassed to want?
10. What's the last time you were truly honest with someone about how you felt?
11. What kind of love did you grow up around?
12. What would make you walk away from something good?
13. What are you healing from right now?
14. What do you hope this turns into, if anything?
15. What's a version of yourself you left behind?
16. What do you struggle to say out loud?
17. When did you last feel completely understood?
18. What do you need more than you admit?
19. What would you want said about you at the end of it all?
20. What's the question you were hoping I wouldn't ask?
21. Which relationship ending hurt you the most, and why?
22. How do you want to be loved on your hardest days?
23. Which fear holds you back from opening up?
24. When did you feel most confident in who you are?
25. Which part of your past are you still healing from?
26. Gently, how do you define a healthy relationship?
27. Which promise have you made to yourself about love?
28. Is there something you've never told a partner?
29. Which moment made you realize what you truly want?
30. How do you handle feeling rejected?
31. Gently, which part of intimacy feels hardest for you?
32. When have you felt most proud of how you loved someone?
33. Which experience made you more careful with your heart?
34. How much of your parents' relationship do you see in yourself?
35. Which insecurity shows up most when you date?
36. Do you find it easy to ask for what you need?
37. Which kind of support feels most real to you?
38. If you're willing, how do you want to grow as a partner?
39. Which moment in your life felt like a turning point?
40. When have you had to let go of someone you loved?
41. Which truth about yourself took years to accept?
42. Truthfully, how do you know you're ready to commit?
43. Which part of your life do you want someone to share?
44. Is there a loss that shaped who you are today?
45. Which relationship lesson came from getting it wrong?
46. How do you want a partner to respond when you're upset?
47. Which fear about the future do you rarely admit?
48. When did you first feel truly loved?
49. Which kind of vulnerability scares you most?
50. How honest were you in your last relationship?
51. Which dream would you want a partner to support?
52. Do you believe you deserve the love you want?
53. Which part of your family story shapes how you love?
54. How do you want to handle hard times as a couple?
55. Which moment would you want a partner to understand about your childhood?
56. When have you felt most misunderstood by someone you loved?
57. Which walls have you built, and why?
58. How do you forgive someone who hurt you?
59. Which part of love do you still find confusing?
60. Is there a regret you carry from a past relationship?
61. Which feeling do you avoid the most?
62. How do you want to feel when you come home to someone?
63. Which memory of love do you keep coming back to?
64. When did you realize you had to choose yourself?
65. Which part of your heart is still guarded?
66. How do you want a partner to celebrate you?
67. Which kind of commitment feels right to you?
68. Do you think you're easy to love?
69. Which moment made you stop settling?
70. How do you want to be remembered in someone's life?
71. Which part of your story would you want me to hear slowly?
72. When have you felt safest with another person?
73. Which conversation in a past relationship do you wish you'd had?
74. How would your ideal partner support your dreams?
75. Which question would you want answered before falling for someone?
76. Is there anything you're scared I'll judge you for?
77. Which moment tonight felt the most real to you?
78. How do you want your next relationship to be different?
79. Which kind of love have you never had but hope for?
80. When have you been brave enough to say how you felt first?
81. Which part of yourself are you proudest to bring into a relationship?
82. How would you want someone to earn your trust?
83. Which hope are you carrying into this date?

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