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Light · 84 questions

Easy openers. Safe for anyone.

1. What's the best part of your day so far?
2. If we could teleport somewhere for dinner tonight, where are we going?
3. What's a small thing that made you happy this week?
4. What would our perfect lazy Sunday actually look like?
5. What's something you want to try that we've never done together?
6. If we adopted a pet tomorrow, what are we naming it?
7. What's a memory of us that always makes you laugh?
8. What did you daydream about today?
9. Which of us is more likely to be late, and why is it you?
10. What's a topic you could talk about for an hour without stopping?
11. What's the last thing that genuinely surprised you?
12. If we had to move to another country in a month, where?
13. What's a food you'd eat every day without getting bored?
14. What's your favorite thing about our home?
15. What would you spend a completely free afternoon doing?
16. What's a small luxury you think is worth every penny?
17. If we wrote a book about our first year together, what's the title?
18. What's the nicest thing a stranger has done for you?
19. What's on your list for us this year?
20. What song should be playing when we walk into a room together?
21. Which meal would you cook to win me over all over again?
22. Who would win if we raced to finish a puzzle right now?
23. How would you describe our first date to a stranger?
24. If we opened a tiny shop together, what would we sell?
25. When do you think I look the most like myself?
26. Which movie should we watch on repeat until one of us breaks?
27. Tell me the song that reminds you of us.
28. If we swapped jobs for a day, how badly would it go?
29. Where would you take me for a surprise weekend?
30. Which of my weird habits secretly makes you smile?
31. How would our friends describe us as a couple in one word?
32. Which famous movie duo are we most like?
33. Who is the better driver, and are you sure?
34. Which snack do you always steal from me?
35. Tell me about the moment you first thought I was cute.
36. What would our couple's karaoke theme song be?
37. Where is the best place we've ever kissed?
38. How would you spend a whole day with me if phones didn't exist?
39. Which of our inside jokes would make no sense to anyone else?
40. If we could redo our first conversation, what would you change?
41. When do you think we laugh the hardest together?
42. Who in our friend group would we most want to double date with?
43. Which season is ours, and why?
44. Tell me what you'd put in a care package for me.
45. If our life were a sitcom, what would the pilot episode be about?
46. How do you think I'd survive a week alone in the woods?
47. Where should we go on our next tiny adventure?
48. Which chore would you trade me forever?
49. We're building a blanket fort tonight. What goes inside?
50. Who is more stubborn, honestly?
51. Which dessert would you order to share with me?
52. Tell me about a date we haven't had yet that you keep imagining.
53. How do you like to be woken up on a lazy morning?
54. Which decade would you want us to live in together?
55. Where would our dream cabin be?
56. Which of my outfits is your favorite?
57. If you could plan a whole day of tiny surprises for me, what's first?
58. When do you feel the most playful around me?
59. Who gets more excited about holidays, you or me?
60. Which board game should never be played by us again?
61. Tell me the funniest thing I've said in my sleep.
62. How would we split the work if we were running a food truck?
63. Stranded on an island together: what's the one thing you'd want me to bring?
64. Where would you hide a love note so I'd find it at the perfect time?
65. Which smell makes you think of me?
66. What's the first recipe in our cookbook together?
67. Who would be the first to cry at a sad movie?
68. Which road trip snack is non-negotiable?
69. Tell me about your favorite photo of us.
70. How long could you go without texting me before cracking?
71. Which dance style should we learn together?
72. When did you last catch yourself grinning because of me?
73. Which celebrity couple are we secretly like?
74. What would we grow first in our own garden?
75. Who would you trust to pick our next vacation?
76. Which game show would we crush as a team?
77. Describe a small ritual of ours you love.
78. How should we celebrate the next random Tuesday?
79. What would our matching tattoos be?
80. Where do you want to be sitting with me on a rainy afternoon?
81. Which of my friends do you like hanging out with most?
82. Which of our dates would you relive exactly as it was?
83. Would you rather have breakfast in bed or a fancy dinner out?
84. Could you plan a perfect date with only ten dollars?

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Deeper · 83 questions

Personal, but not heavy.

1. What's something you've been thinking about a lot lately?
2. When was the last time you felt fully relaxed with me?
3. What's a way I could make your week easier?
4. What's something you'd like to be braver about?
5. What do you want more of in your life right now?
6. What's a part of your day you wish you could hand to someone else?
7. When do you feel most like yourself?
8. What's something you're proud of that you don't get to mention often?
9. What kind of support helps you most when you're stressed?
10. What's a dream you've quietly downgraded?
11. What's something you want us to be better at?
12. What do you think you've taught me without meaning to?
13. When did you last feel truly seen by someone?
14. What's a conversation you wish we had more often?
15. What worries you about the next few years?
16. What's a habit of ours you'd like to keep forever?
17. How do you want to be treated when you're upset?
18. What's something you've never told me about your childhood?
19. What's changed most about you in the last five years?
20. What do you want to have said yes to by this time next year?
21. Which of my habits do you think I'm not aware of?
22. Who in your life taught you how to love?
23. How do you know when I'm having a bad day before I say anything?
24. If you could change one thing about our routine, what would it be?
25. When do you feel most appreciated by me?
26. Which of our fights taught us the most?
27. Tell me about a moment you felt really proud to be with me.
28. How has being with me changed you?
29. If we had a free year, how would you want us to spend it?
30. Where do you want us to be living in five years?
31. Which part of your family do you hope we bring into our life?
32. Who do you go to when you need advice about us?
33. How do you like to make up after an argument?
34. If you could ask me for one thing this month, what would it be?
35. When do you feel most like a team with me?
36. Which of your goals do you wish I asked about more?
37. Tell me something about your day you almost didn't mention.
38. How do you think we're different from our parents?
39. If our relationship had a motto, what would it be?
40. Where do you feel most relaxed when we're together?
41. Which part of me do you think the world doesn't see?
42. Who do you think we'll be as a couple when we're older?
43. How can I show you I love you in a way you'd notice more?
44. If you could stop worrying about one thing, which would it be?
45. When did you know this was serious?
46. Which part of your past do you still think about often?
47. Tell me about a time I made you feel safe.
48. How do you want to spend our next anniversary?
49. If you could learn one thing from me, what would it be?
50. Where do you think we've grown the most together?
51. Which tradition do you want us to start?
52. Who do you want us to be for our friends?
53. How do you feel about the way we handle money?
54. If something were bothering you, how would you want to bring it up?
55. When do you feel we're most in sync?
56. Which dream of yours do you want me to cheer on?
57. Tell me about a moment you wanted to say thank you but didn't.
58. How do you recharge when you're drained?
59. If we could fix one recurring argument, which should it be?
60. Where do you want our home to feel like?
61. Which friend of yours do you wish knew me better?
62. Who in your family do you think understands us best?
63. Lately, how do you feel about the balance of work and play in our life?
64. If you could plan our next year, what would you put in it?
65. When have I made you feel small without meaning to?
66. Which of my words stuck with you the longest?
67. Tell me about a time you felt jealous and didn't say so.
68. These days, how do you want me to support you when you're chasing something big?
69. If you could keep one day of ours in a jar, which would it be?
70. Where do you see yourself growing next?
71. Which part of our life together are you most grateful for?
72. Who were you before we met that you want to bring back?
73. How much alone time do you really need?
74. If I asked you to be honest about something I do, what would it be?
75. When do you feel the most attractive?
76. Which of your needs feels hard to say out loud?
77. Tell me about a moment when you felt we were really on the same page.
78. Be honest: how do you think I handle stress?
79. If we could take a class together, what would you pick?
80. Where do you think we still need to learn about each other?
81. Would you tell me if you were bored with our routine?
82. Could we be better at listening to each other, and how?
83. Should we have more date nights or more quiet nights in?

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Deepest · 83 questions

The ones that stay with you.

1. What's something you need from me that you've stopped asking for?
2. When have you felt most alone in this relationship?
3. What's a fear about our future you keep to yourself?
4. What part of your past still affects how you love?
5. What would you want me to understand about you that I clearly don't?
6. What's the hardest thing you've survived, and who knows about it?
7. What do you think we're both pretending is fine?
8. If you could redo one moment between us, which one?
9. What do you need me to forgive you for?
10. What's a truth about yourself you're still learning to accept?
11. What would our relationship look like at its best version?
12. What are you most afraid I'll stop doing?
13. What do you grieve that no one thinks to ask about?
14. What's something you've wanted to say for months?
15. What kind of person do you want to be by the end of this decade?
16. What would you regret leaving unsaid?
17. When did you last feel like giving up on something, and did you?
18. What do you want our life to feel like, not look like?
19. What's the kindest thing I could do for you right now?
20. What do you hope is still true about us in twenty years?
21. Which of your fears about love came from your childhood?
22. Who hurt you before me in a way that still shows up?
23. How do you really feel about our future?
24. If you could change one moment in our history, which would it be?
25. When have you felt unseen by me?
26. Which part of yourself do you hold back from me?
27. Tell me about the moment you trusted me completely.
28. How do you want me to love you when you're at your worst?
29. If we lost everything tomorrow, what would you want us to keep?
30. Where do you feel we're drifting, even a little?
31. Which promise do you most want me to keep?
32. Who do you think you'd be if we'd never met?
33. How do you feel when I pull away?
34. If you could hear me say one thing, what would it be?
35. When did you last feel unsure about us?
36. Which of my wounds do you understand best?
37. Tell me about something you've forgiven me for without telling me.
38. How can I make you feel safer with me?
39. If you could ask your younger self about love, what would you ask?
40. Where do you still feel alone, even with me?
41. Which part of our life scares you the most?
42. Who do you worry you'll become if we ever break apart?
43. How has loving me been harder than you expected?
44. If I could see your heart right now, what would I find?
45. When did you feel the most proud of us?
46. Which of my choices hurt you most?
47. Tell me about a moment you needed me and I wasn't there.
48. How do you want us to grow old together?
49. If we ever have a crisis, what do you need from me first?
50. Where do you think your deepest need comes from?
51. Which part of your body or life do you feel insecure about with me?
52. Who in your past do you wish could see us now?
53. How do you feel about the way I say sorry?
54. If our love had a weak spot, where is it?
55. When did you feel the closest to losing me?
56. Which silence between us do you want to break?
57. Tell me about the version of us you dream about.
58. How do you want to be held when you're grieving?
59. If you knew I'd understand, what would you confess?
60. Where did you learn to protect your heart?
61. Which of your needs do you think I've missed?
62. Who do you want to be for me in the hardest year of our life?
63. Lately, how do you think I see you, honestly?
64. If we could go back to our beginning, what would you do differently?
65. When have you felt most grateful to be loved by me?
66. Which part of our story would you want our kids or friends to know?
67. Tell me about something you're still ashamed to show me.
68. These days, how do you know you're loved when I'm not around?
69. If you could heal one thing in me, what would it be?
70. Where do you want us to be when we're both very old?
71. Which moment made you sure you wanted a life with me?
72. Who do you turn into when you feel rejected?
73. How do you want me to fight for us?
74. If I were gone tomorrow, what would you wish you'd said?
75. When do you feel you have to earn my love?
76. Which dream have you set aside for us?
77. Tell me about the scariest thing you've ever told me.
78. How can we be kinder to each other on the hard days?
79. What's one thing you'd promise me forever?
80. Where in your life do you wish I'd lead more?
81. Would you still choose me if you met me today?
82. Do you feel fully chosen by me?
83. Is there anything you're afraid I'll find out?

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