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What's the best decision we've made together?
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After a few years the easy questions run out and the important ones get postponed. These questions for married couples go straight at the things that quietly decide how the next decade feels.
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Easy openers. Safe for anyone.
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What's a small thing about our routine you actually love?
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If we had a week with no responsibilities, where are we?
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What's changed most about our life in the last five years?
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What do people always get wrong about us?
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What's a phase of our marriage you'd happily relive?
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What's the funniest thing our life together has produced?
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What's something you'd like our home to have one day?
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Who's better at handling a crisis, honestly?
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What's a tradition we have that you'd defend to anyone?
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What did you think marriage would be like before we did it?
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What's a skill you'd like us to learn together?
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What's your favourite ordinary evening with me?
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If we started over as strangers, would you pick me again — and how fast?
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What's the best advice about marriage you've ever heard?
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What's a place we should go back to?
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What do you want the next anniversary to look like?
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What's something you're glad we never did?
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What's the most us thing we do?
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What would you want written on a bench with both our names?
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Deeper · 20 questions for married couples
Personal, but not heavy.
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What do you need from this marriage that you're not getting?
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How has your idea of a good life changed since we married?
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What's something you've given up that you'd like back?
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How do you feel about the way we split everything — time, money, effort?
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What do you think has been hardest on me in the last few years?
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When did we last feel like a team, properly?
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What's a conversation we've been postponing?
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What do you want to be true about us in ten years?
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How do you want us to handle our parents getting older?
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What's something you've grown out of that I haven't noticed?
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What part of your own life feels neglected?
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What do you want to change about how we argue?
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When do you feel most like a partner rather than a housemate?
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What's something you'd like to be brave about together?
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What's a fear about the future you haven't voiced?
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How do you want intimacy to work in this stage of our life?
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What's a way I've quietly disappointed you?
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What would make you feel more appreciated day to day?
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What do you want us to stop doing?
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What's something you'd like me to take off your plate permanently?
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Deepest · 20 questions for married couples
The ones that stay with you.
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Have you ever seriously imagined leaving? What brought you back?
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What have you never forgiven me for?
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What's a version of yourself you buried to make this work?
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What do you think we've each sacrificed, and was it worth it?
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What's the loneliest year we've had, and did I know?
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What do you resent that you've decided to live with?
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What would you want to have said if we ran out of time tomorrow?
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What are you afraid I'd think if you were fully honest?
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What do you need me to see about how you've changed?
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What's the hardest thing about being married to me?
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When did you last feel unloved, and what was happening?
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What do you hope our children — or the people who know us — learned from us?
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What's a grief you've never fully let me into?
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What would you want to do with the last year of our life together?
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What part of our marriage do you think we're both lying about?
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What would repair actually look like for you?
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What do you still hope for that feels unrealistic to say out loud?
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How do you want to be cared for when you can't care for yourself?
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What's the truest thing you could tell me right now?
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Would you marry me again, knowing all of it?
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