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Light · 84 questions

Easy openers. Safe for anyone.

1. What's something small I do that you'd miss if I stopped?
2. What was your first honest impression of me?
3. Which version of me is your favorite — morning, night, or somewhere in between?
4. What's a meal that instantly reminds you of us?
5. If we had a completely free Saturday, what would your perfect one look like?
6. What song would you put on if you wanted to make me smile?
7. What's the funniest fight we've ever had?
8. Which of my habits did you find annoying at first and now find endearing?
9. What's a place we've been that you'd go back to tomorrow?
10. What do I do that makes you feel taken care of?
11. If you had to describe our relationship as a movie genre, what would it be?
12. What's something you'd love us to do more of?
13. What's a compliment I gave you that you still think about?
14. What's your favorite ordinary night with me?
15. What did you think our life would look like by now?
16. What's a tiny tradition we've accidentally built?
17. Which of us would survive longer without the other's help, honestly?
18. What's something I'm better at than you'll admit?
19. If we swapped lives for a day, what would surprise you most?
20. What smell reminds you of me?
21. Which of my facial expressions can you read from across a room?
22. Who in our friend group do you think is most like us?
23. Where did you first picture us living together?
24. How would you plan the perfect birthday surprise for me?
25. If we had a mascot, what animal would it be?
26. Describe our relationship using only food.
27. Tell me which of my stories you've heard too many times.
28. Name a movie scene that reminds you of us.
29. Remember the first gift I gave you? Be honest about it.
30. Would you rather we take a cooking class or a dance class?
31. Is there a word I say that you've started saying too?
32. Pick a holiday we should celebrate in our own weird way.
33. Should we have a signature cocktail? Name it.
34. Which snack do you hide from me?
35. Who said "I love you" first, and how did it go?
36. Where would you want to be stranded with me for a week?
37. How do you think I'd survive a zombie apocalypse?
38. If you could relive our first date with one change, what would it be?
39. Describe the moment you first thought I was cute.
40. Tell me a text from me you'd frame.
41. Name a chore you'd pay me to do.
42. Remember the worst haircut either of us had while together?
43. Would you rather have a house by the sea or a cabin in the woods with me?
44. Is there a hobby of mine you've quietly started to enjoy?
45. Pick the soundtrack for our road trips.
46. Which of us would win a staring contest?
47. Who's the bigger baby when they're sick?
48. Where's your favorite spot in our home?
49. How do you picture our life on a random Wednesday in ten years?
50. If we swapped jobs for a week, who would get fired first?
51. Describe my laugh to someone who's never heard it.
52. Tell me something about me that surprised you when we moved closer.
53. Name a small thing I do that makes you feel lucky.
54. Would you rather have one perfect vacation or a hundred perfect evenings?
55. Is there a song you can't hear without thinking of me?
56. Pick the best photo of us ever taken.
57. Which season suits us best as a couple?
58. Who's more likely to cry at a movie?
59. Where would we go if we ran away for a weekend right now?
60. How do you know when I'm hungry before I do?
61. If our pet could talk, what would it complain about?
62. Describe what our dream kitchen would look like.
63. Tell me your favorite way I say your name.
64. Name a restaurant that feels like ours.
65. Would you rather get a love letter or a playlist from me?
66. Is there a moment you knew I was a keeper, even as a joke?
67. Pick one of my quirks you'd defend to anyone.
68. Which famous couple would you want as our neighbors?
69. Who wins most of our arguments, honestly?
70. Where do we disagree the most about decorating?
71. How do I act when I'm really excited about something?
72. If we wrote a cookbook, what's the first recipe?
73. Describe my fashion sense in a single phrase.
74. Tell me something you love about my family.
75. Name a thing you want us to buy together that we don't need.
76. Would you rather go back to our first year or skip ahead ten?
77. Is there a nickname you've always wanted to call me?
78. Pick the dumbest argument we've ever had.
79. Which of your friends did you most want me to like?
80. Who's the better gift giver, honestly?
81. Where did we have our most memorable meal?
82. How do you picture our perfect morning together?
83. If we were characters in a sitcom, what would the running joke be?
84. Describe me the way my best friend would.

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Deeper · 83 questions

Personal, but not heavy.

1. When did you last feel truly proud of me?
2. What's something you needed from me recently and didn't ask for?
3. When do you feel most distant from me?
4. What's a fear about us that you've never said out loud?
5. How do you know when I'm not okay, even if I say I am?
6. What's something you've forgiven me for without telling me?
7. Which of your parents' habits do you see in yourself with me?
8. What do you think I misunderstand about you?
9. When was the moment you knew this was serious?
10. What's a part of yourself you show me that no one else gets?
11. What's something you've changed about yourself because of me — good or bad?
12. When do you feel the most loved by me?
13. What's a conversation we keep having without resolving?
14. What do you wish I'd ask you about more often?
15. What's something you're carrying right now that you've kept light on purpose?
16. How has your idea of love changed since we met?
17. What's a moment with me you replay in your head?
18. What would you want me to say to you on your worst day?
19. Is there something you've been waiting for me to notice?
20. What do you think we're avoiding?
21. How do you want us to handle it when we see things differently?
22. Which moments with me feel most like home?
23. Where did you learn to love the way you do?
24. Who do you become when you're with me that you're not with anyone else?
25. If I needed you to show up tomorrow, how would you want me to ask?
26. Tell me about a time you felt I didn't have your back.
27. Describe what trust feels like for you on an ordinary day.
28. Is there anything about how we split the work that feels unfair?
29. Would you tell me if something I did hurt you, right away?
30. Which of your needs do you think I meet without trying?
31. How has your family shaped what you expect from me?
32. Where are we better together than apart?
33. Who do you compare us to, even without meaning to?
34. If you could change one thing about how we fight, what would it be?
35. Tell me how you feel when I'm quiet for too long.
36. Describe a moment when you felt I chose you over something else.
37. Is there a sacrifice you've made for us that I should know about?
38. Would you want more time alone or more time with me right now?
39. Which of my goals do you worry about?
40. How can I make you feel more appreciated this week?
41. Where do you feel like you have to perform with me?
42. Who in your past made it harder to trust me?
43. If we could learn one relationship skill together, which one?
44. Tell me what you think I need that I don't ask for.
45. Describe how you want us to celebrate each other's wins.
46. Is there a subject you avoid with me, and why?
47. Would you want me to be more honest even when it stings?
48. Which part of my past do you have questions about?
49. How do you feel when I spend time with my friends?
50. Where do you think we'll need each other most in the next few years?
51. Who do you feel responsible for besides me?
52. If you could ask me for anything without guilt, what would it be?
53. Tell me about something you've been proud of but didn't share.
54. Describe a way I could love you that would surprise you.
55. Is there a way I talk to you that you'd like me to change?
56. Would you say we're in a busy season or a good season?
57. Which memory of us do you return to when you're far away?
58. How do you want us to handle big decisions?
59. Where do you see me holding back from you?
60. Who do you think knows you best besides me?
61. If our relationship were a house, which room needs work?
62. Tell me a small moment when you felt deeply loved.
63. Describe the partner you're trying to be.
64. Is there something you'd like to try together that feels a little scary?
65. Would you want to know my biggest worry about us?
66. Which of my moods is hardest for you?
67. How has our relationship changed you for the better?
68. Where do you want more independence from me?
69. Who first showed you what a healthy relationship looks like?
70. If we could start one new habit together, what should it be?
71. Tell me how you want me to act when you're overwhelmed.
72. Describe a disagreement we had that you now see differently.
73. Do you ever miss anything about being single?
74. Would you want me to plan more or leave more room for surprise?
75. Which of our routines do you secretly treasure?
76. How do you want to handle it when one of us feels neglected?
77. Where does your mind go when we're apart for a few days?
78. Who do you want to be as a parent, partner, or elder someday?
79. If you had one wish for our next year, what is it?
80. Tell me what makes you feel respected by me.
81. Describe a moment you almost told me something and didn't.
82. Is there a part of your life you'd like me to be more curious about?
83. Would you want me to remind you of your dreams when you forget them?

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Deepest · 83 questions

The ones that stay with you.

1. What's the loneliest you've ever felt inside this relationship?
2. If I disappeared tomorrow, what would you regret not saying?
3. What's a version of your life you gave up to be here?
4. Do you think I know the worst of you? Do you want me to?
5. What's something about me you've made peace with rather than accepted?
6. When have you doubted us, and what pulled you back?
7. What do you need from me that you're afraid is too much to ask?
8. What's the truest thing you've never told anyone, including me?
9. How do you want to be loved when you're old and difficult?
10. What would break us, if anything?
11. What's a wound you had before me that I've accidentally reopened?
12. Do you feel like you're becoming who you wanted to be?
13. What's something you've grieved quietly this year?
14. If we only had one more year together, what would we change tomorrow?
15. What do you think I'm most afraid of?
16. What's the hardest truth you'd want me to hear kindly?
17. Where do you feel unseen — by me, or by everyone?
18. What promise do you make to yourself that you keep breaking?
19. What do you hope people say about us?
20. What's the one thing you'd want me to remember about you?
21. How do you want me to love you when you don't feel lovable?
22. Which of your childhood wounds shows up between us?
23. Where does it hurt most when you feel ignored by me?
24. Who were you before you learned to be careful with love?
25. If I betrayed your trust, what would you need to rebuild it?
26. Tell me the thing you're most afraid I'll discover about you.
27. Describe the kind of love you're afraid you'll never fully get.
28. Is there a part of you that still waits for me to leave?
29. Would you still want me if I changed in ways neither of us expected?
30. Which of my words has stayed with you the longest, good or bad?
31. How do you picture saying goodbye to me someday?
32. Where do you still feel like you're on your own, even with me?
33. Who would you blame if we fell apart?
34. If you could erase one day from our history, which would it be?
35. Tell me about the moment you felt the most loved in your life.
36. Describe how you'd want to be cared for if you got very sick.
37. Is there anything you've given up on asking me for?
38. Would you want me to stay if you pushed me away?
39. Which of your parents' mistakes are you most scared to repeat with me?
40. How do you know I'm not going anywhere?
41. Where do you feel the most shame in how you love?
42. Who taught you that love has to be earned?
43. If our love had a scar, where would it be?
44. Tell me the moment you felt furthest from me.
45. Describe what you'd want me to do if you lost your way.
46. Is there something you've done that you're afraid I couldn't forgive?
47. Would you want to grow old in the same home or keep moving?
48. Which of your dreams have you quietly given up for us?
49. How would you want to be told if I stopped loving you?
50. Where do you need me to be braver?
51. Who do you think you'd be without me?
52. If you could heal one thing in me, what would it be?
53. Tell me what you'd want me to know if you died first.
54. Describe what makes you feel truly safe with me.
55. Is there a hurt from our early days you still carry?
56. Would you tell me if you'd fallen for someone else?
57. Which part of you do you think I love the least?
58. How do you want us to face the loss of our parents?
59. Where have I let you down that I still don't see?
60. Who do you imagine at your side at the very end?
61. If you were honest about your loneliest thought tonight, what would it be?
62. Tell me about a time you felt unworthy of me.
63. Describe how you'd want us to handle the hardest year of our lives.
64. Is there a version of me you're still mourning?
65. Would you let me see the parts of you that you keep from everyone?
66. Which fear keeps you from being fully open with me?
67. How do you want your love for me to be remembered?
68. Where does your need for control come from?
69. Who is the person you've hurt most, and do you see them in me?
70. If you could only keep one memory of us, which would it be?
71. Tell me what love has asked of you that you weren't ready for.
72. Describe the moment you realized you could lose me.
73. Is there anything you'd need to be free of to love me better?
74. Would you forgive me for anything, or is there a line?
75. Which of your secrets would change how I see you?
76. How do you want me to fight for you when you've given up on yourself?
77. Where do you go inside when you feel abandoned?
78. Who do you want us to be for each other when everything else falls away?
79. If this were our last conversation, what would you need me to hear?
80. Tell me what you've never forgiven yourself for in love.
81. Describe the love you want to leave behind in the world.
82. Is there a question you're afraid to ask me because of the answer?
83. Would you want to spend eternity with me, if eternity were real?

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